New zine – queer relationships

I just spent the whole weekend and two excellent events on relationships: Queer polyday in Leicester, and the Polyamory, Consensual Non-Monogamy and Relationship Anarchy day in Manchester.

For my bits of the days I put together a zine bringing together some of my thoughts on relationships from the last decade or so, and asking what I hope are a useful set of questions about our relationships – whether or not we see ourselves, or our relationships, as queer.


The zine takes as a starting point the word queer, and the different possible meanings of that term. Then it applies these different meanings to relationships to ask the question ‘what does a queer relationship look like?’ Particular it explores the cultural acceptability of different kinds of relationships, different relationship labels, the idea of relationships being on multiple dimensions, and what it’s like to shift from the question of what relationships we have, to how we do them.

You can download the zine here. It prints out best in booklet form, but fine to read it as a pdf on an e-reader or computer also.

Valentine’s Day Video and Discussion

This year the Open University helped me to make a video about my thoughts on Valentine’s Day (a version of this blog post which I did last year). I talk about who is included in Valentine’s Day, who is excluded from it, and the impact that this can have on all of our relationships, as well as a few ideas for rewriting the rules of Valentine’s Day.


Do join us tomorrow at 1.30 pm on the OU Facebook Page for a discussion about these ideas.